Hi, IP! And Happy New Year! At least, I'm hoping for a better one for us both.
Let's hope so!
Originally Posted By: Ciluzen
I did accept the invite. I took my dog with me, as well, for a play date. We watched the original Star Wars since she'd never seen it.
Great that you accepted the invite and even better that you watched the original Star Wars...I'm a HUGE fan!!
Originally Posted By: ciluzen
She is a lady who is about 4 or 5 years older than D1 and started working for H right out of school. She has never had a boyfriend and just bought her own house last year. It was helpful to me to realize this. I have been so lonely and realized that I have always lived with other people. I went right from college to marriage to kids and never had my own place. But if she can do it and be content, I guess I can manage.
That is good that seeing her living alone gives you some confidence. I personally have lived alone for a couple of years in my twenties. Probably shouldn't tell you, but I hated every second of it, I was so lonely. Probably one of the reasons I'm terrified of getting a D, I know what it's like to live alone and I know I don't like it. OK, I know I'll have two children this time but once they go to bed the loneliness hits.
Originally Posted By: ciluzen
Thank you for the support and insights on my posts. I really shouldn't have asked anything about the VH get together. It sent me into a depression and anxiety tailspin and I'm sure H had an internal reaction that didn't help (not my business, though). No Happy New Year from any of that crew, either. I had sent everyone (except H) Christmas texts and they all responded, but as I sent nothing lat night for NY, I got nothing. Guess I'm done reaching with them.
Yes, you certainly learn who your true friends are at times like this when you see who contacts you and who doesn't.
Originally Posted By: ciluzen
It is slowly getting easier to not think of contacting H constantly. Or hoping he will contact me. But its also hard not to feel sad when I think of why he isn't. Still giving him space but fighting the hopeless feeling that comes with the thoughts of him not missing me at all. Solo Partner read has helped.
I hope your detaching is going better for you. Popping over to your thread.
I'm glad you're finding it easier to not contact H. It is the most difficult thing ever, to not contact the person you love who you used to be able to contact whenever you liked and as often as you liked. You are being so strong!
