Today I reached out by texting a workmates group to see if anyone fancied a lunchtime drink. Got back two invitations to lunch which meant when W collected S I was out having lunch with a family of sixteen people. It was fun and I would never have done it before. As always thanks for all the advice and comments. I get that most WWs don't come back and the best thing I can do is to keep building on the detaching I've done and to continue not let her cake eat. The little contact we have had has shown me that she has feelings for me but her long standing obsession is still stronger. Who knows what the future will bring? Her own family don't think it will last but I certainly won't pursue like I did at the beginning. I have enough problems working on myself each day.
