Choosing not to discuss the our relationship with my wife for the last 6 months has not improved anything.
Oh dear catastrophic thinuking. Black and white thinking and generalising. "Anything??"
Stop!
It may have not made things worse but not better.
Evaluating, if you are going to do an evaluation, do it properly. Go back to old threads. Consider the changes in you, your R with your kids. Play fair. Do a SWOT analysis not an emotional one!
How do I neutralize the anger and resentment she harbors for me?
You can't control W. You can control how you react.
Giving her space and leaving the relationship alone appears to have done nothing.
More bad thinking.
If she feels anger towards me isn't that better then before when she said she was indifferent to me?
Mind reading, remember 100% rule, is what she says really true?
I know she has to do this internally. If certain behaviors will drive her away, then why can't certain actions help to neutralize her feelings?
They are her feelings not yours.
If this is a reasonable line of thought, then what types of behaviors will help?
That's core DB, do that which works, stop that which doesn't. Try something for long enough. Observe like a lab experiment. Detach.
I would like to tweek my interactions with her, in hopes that she will lower her shield a bit.
Expectations! Really! Observe and adjust. Let her be and work on you
My thoughts
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
