Anger stage ......Great my W already thinks I am abusive so what do I do when I get to the anger stage

I have self enrolled in a program for domestic abusers she felt that some of my behaviour was abusive so I took the lead I wanted to self enrol

Going to take a look at meetup groups

Me:48 W 41
M:18 T:26
2 D 18 & 4
2 S 17 & 13
Bomb: 20/7/2015 in house separation
D filed 06/17
Separate houses 10/17
D Final 29/12//17.