Stop worrying about being alone in the future, you are now. Right now you are alone. It doesn't matter if your W is in the same house, that's a false sense of security you keep telling yourself.
Live your own life and find pleasure in it or keep being miserable and taking for granted what you do have.
I want to be happy and the bottom line is I control my happiness.
I am torn between putting myself first or thinking that I have to put my children first
I see and hear what you say about having to be in a better mental state in order to be the rock that my children need
I worry about everything and anything
Here is a couple of quick examples of the kind of worry that goes through my mind and most of this is totally irrational
When we go to separate houses I worry that my wife will be able to offer the children a better standard of living ...remember she has been the main carer for the past 15 years she has been the one who was / is arround after school to make them meals talk with them care for them interact with them while I was at work
My boys do not get along that well with each other half of the time they wind each other up I know they would not want to have to share a bedrrom ....I know this now from how we are living what I do not know is if this would change if we lived in a new house perhaps they would actually like to spend time together what if I have to put them into a single bedrrom and my wife manages to put them into bedrooms of their own what if they prefer living with my wife and not want to live with me ....it is the unknown that cripples me all the frikiing time.
I am a good dad I love and I care for my children and I will do the best that I can for them everyday I will provide for them and I will share their happiness I will make them laugh and I will be their biggest fan.
How could I ever move forward with my life and even contemplate being with someone else this would take a massive amount of time and wold be unfair on my children ...This is what I mean about me being afraid to put myself first. I deserve happiness but not at the expense of my children .
I will think of some GAL ideas
25yrs thank you everyone
Me:48 W 41 M:18 T:26 2 D 18 & 4 2 S 17 & 13 Bomb: 20/7/2015 in house separation D filed 06/17 Separate houses 10/17 D Final 29/12//17.
