First thing first: you are not the baddy in your M. Your H is putting the blame on you as he needs to get rid of his guilty feeling! So by blaming you he finds a justification for doing what he is doing. It took me 9 months to realise that we all are responsible for our decisions! And it also takes 2 to tango, so your H is also partly responsible for what is happening.
Secondly when things get though, ask for help from God. It has to come from within. I can't explain why or how, but for the last 2 days I have felt protected and serene. I have been praying a lot recently. Not to restore my M but to guide me and walk alongside me for this powerful journey.
Thirdly I'm not jealous so I will, like Shotgun, be with you whenever you need me too. Happy New Year Gmum, May 2016 be OUR year :-)