Get up and start fighting for your wife if you really want her back.
What does this mean
It means to start being Pierce Bronson.
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Your next move is crucial, time is running out
can I do this in house separation ??
What if we said, "No, you can't do it while in house separation"? See, you didn't even ask what the next move should be. You are so terrified of living without her, that is all you can think about. That's not working. That's not changing. That's not being a man. You keep saying you are working on it. How? What are you doing that would be considered working on it? Spending more time with your children is a separate relationship from your W. The changes you have previously listed, are things you are doing to make her feel better toward you, but you have not changed your inner self. Until you start working on the inner self, the dynamics of your MR is not going to improve.
IMO, your next move should be to grow some b@lls, b/c until you make up your mind that you will be okay without her........I don't think anything is going to help this MR. Can you do it while in house S? Maybe, I just don't know that you will. It may take you living independently before you grow up emotionally.
Your W is not that little teenage girl now. She wants to be with a grown man who has all the right equipment.
You need to have a session with your IC and discuss your co-dependency, and you don't know how to answer questions about your inner self. There is where the core to your problem lies.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
