G You are right in all your points. And those are your feelings and more than fine. You are also right that this could be temp checks or false alarms. No question to any of this. I am not saying show her you are ready to jump into a R again.
This could also be my interpretation of reading. It don't come across like you could care less or not if she was alive.
Maybe tell her your thoughts but also that if she is not willing or wanting the same type of things then you are more than fine with that also.
I must admit that I am a bit jealous and wish I was in in your place. As messed up as that sounds since you are divorced now. Lol. I actually laughed after typing that. Right now I get nothing from my W and it is driving me crazy to think I am putting something on hold waiting.
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15