WW is onboard with trying to save the M

[Flight]

I can tell you firsthand, as will Sandi, an in-house separation is very, very difficult. There are several things to look at:

1. A "trial" separation is usually really a trial divorce. Each step away from each other makes it more difficult to reconcile. However, that depends on how you handle your "separation". Some people do better facing the consequences of being alone, facing their choices. (Or leaving behind the family for the AP and possibly seeing the grass is not greener).

2. Depending on where you are in your sitch and what you want to accomplish, you have two choices. To try and not crowd her and rebuild a connectionn slowly, or to be as invisible as you can, truly moving forward without consideration for her other than common courtesy. Often the in-house separation makes it worse because the LBS can't really detach. So they keep adding pressure to the wayward and push them further away.

Personally, I would GAL. You act like you are physically separated. Whatever you would do if you had your own life in your own place, that is what you do. You emotionally detach from her. You are cordial when you see her, but you see her as little as possible. You do your own thing.

As for the social aspects, again, you do as you would if you were single. You let her know you are inviting some people over for an event in case that affects her. She can join, stay in her room, or go elsewhere.

Find out what it is YOU want. You may find out you are better off without her baggage. Or you may find out she has time to think and wants to talk with you about options. Either way, what you have been doing together hasn't worked, and that is what the 180 is about. Try something different and keep doing what works while avoiding what doesn't. You have to be incredibly disciplined to log what works and to know not to be dragged into the old dynamic. Like no long R talks.