i think TX said much better what I was trying to get across. It sounds like you are pissed at her, which is ok. But if in the long run you do want your family intact it is just like the books say. What can you do differently to get the result from her that you want?
You can not just say you dont want her like this. She has said some things to show she is coming around but you seem to have a wall up now. It is like the roles have reversed.

M 37
W 34

T 12
M 8
D 7
S 4

Need break 4/12/15
W no ring 7/7/15

Separate room 4/12/15
Separate living suggested 8/15
W moved out 11/1/15