Ghost taking baby steps

[ATPeace]

Ok,so anther question

This s more about getting a general feel in what others would do in the same situation

My eldest son wants an iPad and he asked my w and his mum if he can get one and she said no now I know she said no so he then came to me and said can he get one ....I do,not,want to totally piss off my W however if he is willing to at me back then I do not have a problem but then this is going behind my wife's back

My thoughts are if we were a couple then we decide together on things and agree on matters now we are not then we each can decide separately .....and the kids will play is each off against each other to get the things that they want so how do most people here deal with things like this,I,said,to my W that decisions like this should,not be made by one person we need to discuss and agree to save any conflicts ....right or wrong

Thanks