I'm so glad that Christmas turned out to be a fun time for you and everyone w/no added stress. Enjoy the rest of the holiday w/the "biggies" arriving today.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Hang in there doll, you are a great mom and are doing so well. Your boys will look back at this time and remember the tent, the thumb wars and all the other little Mom touches that kept things grounded for them while Dad went off the rails. Thinking of you and sending love and light xoxoxo
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
went to get my biggies at the airport came home and opened our gifts...my boys bought me earrings. My little ones bought me rings from their santa shop at school. I am in heaven. woke up to a FB post of me and my oldest and it said I love my mom.... melts my heart. H is truly missing out...His loss
Now, that's what Christmas is all about...being w/your children. It doesn't matter how big or small, expensive or not so expensive the gift is...it's what comes from the heart. I say you have had a very nice Christmas w/your children. Enjoy every minute of it. Time waits for no one.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
venting: I just do not get how he can go without calling his boys. My S6 was crying last night because he misses him...and wants a tree house. I told him we will build it together when it gets warmer...lol it will be a costcoesque house since I am no bob the builder. I am a bit cranky. I have a nasty cold and sound like a smoker but here I am adulting taking calls...I feel like the Nyquil commercial...sorry boys I need to take today off...
Its hard to function well when we are sick so try to take it easy tomorrow will be better Im sorry for your sons pain..I know it is hard on them but they are very resilient and will bounce back quicker than us all they need is our love and support
one time I asked my son if he is ok after xh left for good he told me all he needed was me I think he meant it.. still he never talks or rarely asks about his dad and seems ok he is 14 now and dad left when he was 5
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
I worked for a bit today and sent my troop to my sister's house. I have been just exhausted and sick. I needed a me day with no MOOOOOOOOOOOOOOMMMMMM!! MOOOOOOOOOOOMMMM! for a few hours. So Grateful that I had this option .
Hi Tfish- I know you have been under the weather. I hope you are feeling better. If you are, channel that energy elsewhere. Maybe walk/run on your treadmill if you now have it or step out for a walk.
I cannot emphasize enough how important physical activity is throughout all this. It occupies and tires your mind and body.
Get busy!
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
