well in hearing that, I am not sure you want her back.
which is fine, but i do think you need to remember to keep an open mind during this time. remember changes are not over night. I also think she needs to tell you she wants to work on things and then you lay your cards on the table.
have a great new year
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15