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Hi Mona, gosh things have been eventful in your sitch recently! I'm glad to see that you have Job's wise counsel on your thread. She has been around on the forum for a good while and has seen how things play out in many sitches.

I would also encourage you to slow down a little here. From what you post, you are still working through your understandable pain and anger about what has happened with your H. You became involved with Chris and briefly became an OW. I'm glad he told you at an early stage and you can extricate yourself from that situation. But I think that came about because you are wounded and hurting and seeking positive affirmation from other guys. I would encourage you to google relationships and entanglements as I think what you are doing is getting entangled with others as a way of dealing with your pain.

I think a healthier path for now is one that doesn't involve OP - a path where you enjoy female friendships and other nourishing activities while you process your sitch and heal. I also agree that leaving your H to his own devices is probably a good idea just now. It doesn't sound as though either of your are in a place where much contact is going to be of benefit to you. Maybe just stick to essentials for now...

I hope you have a good new year and you can take the time to reassess and work out how you can emerge from the coming year in a healthy and happy place.

Take care my friend xx