Thank you, all of you. So when he comes and wants to talk, what do I do? I had decided that I was (again) going to state clearly I'd like to talk, do care about him but will not accept attacks. In the past he's turned that back to "then it is on your terms and that's why you never change" blah blah blah. What then?
(and, baby eating??)
Kyrie, when he wants to talk, just listen. Look at the top of the forum, there is a list up there for reference of validating statements. Yes he will know what you are doing. But just listen, don't defend yourself, you can say "I hadn't thought of it that way " or "I am interested in your perspective, I'd like some time to think about what you are saying." You don't have to agree. Actually you probably shouldn't agree. Whatever you do, do not get into an argument with him.
I will get back to your thread tomorrow. I am too tired to put much into my comments right now, and I want to give you my full attention. In the meantime, I know I will probably ask you about your goals, and what you are doing for self care so be prepared for those questions. I hope you have a good night. I am going to try to get some sleep. Take care and I will be back.
