Inpain when H comes round I take our dog out and don't stay in the same room as him when I come back.
I wait about 2 hours to reply to his texts or phone calls. It doesn't make any difference as now H completely blanks me when he comes around.
I don't initiate conversation with him and only speak about kids when needed. I can see H is completely gone and won't come back. I'm getting the same treatment as his first partner! That's what hurts the most because I'm nothing like her and he has put both of us on the same level
Inpain when H comes round I take our dog out and don't stay in the same room as him when I come back.
I wait about 2 hours to reply to his texts or phone calls. It doesn't make any difference as now H completely blanks me when he comes around.
I don't initiate conversation with him and only speak about kids when needed. I can see H is completely gone and won't come back. I'm getting the same treatment as his first partner! That's what hurts the most because I'm nothing like her and he has put both of us on the same level
Usually H sees kids on Wed before bedtime. Today got a text about him picking up the kids. It was a shock as I wasn't expecting it and he never mentioned it last time I saw him.
He also picked up dog as I was doing 2 viewings. Brought the kids late afternoon and even gave them tea! Also they came back saying they were hungry! During all this time he only interacted with kids!
H is really gone, ignoring me and behaving the same way as he does with his first partner! It's the shame that it comes to that!
On the good side, the more I look at him, the less attractive I find him (so Shotgun you are onto a win here:-)!), and it didn't bother me as much as I thought it'd. In an feel the door closing on my love for him. I won't file, but on the other hand I want to move on with my life, and clearly I don't see him having a part in it!
I read all the other posts and at least people have a sort of communication with WWS/WAS and I don't, so that's why I know deep down it's over.
I'm also starting to remember and see sides of H that I don't like. It's painful, but helpful at the same time, I think. It does take the hope away. How old are your kids? My D is young, so we have to communicate regarding her. Otherwise we wouldn't be talking either.
Rouky, I forget, is there an OW in your situation?
Rouky and Gmum I think that the three of us are the kind of people who love unconditionally and overlook the flaws in our mate. I do not consider that to be a character flaw however. Yes there are many things that are unappealing about our spouses but that is true of all humans by our very nature. I hope that we can all continue to be forgiving souls in our future relationships as it is the only chance that I see in compatibility.
Also check out my brilliant new thread over at Lonely Hearts Club III!
M:53 W:47 M:15 years. S:18 S's: 30 & 28 from previous marriage. BD: 3/14 Divorced January 17.
Btw, if your niece does have a stomach bug, get your hands on some apple cider vinegar ASAP. It's gross but drink a bit in water or oj and few times a day over the next few days and it will help you not get sick or at least not get as sick. Works like a charm for me.
That stuff is great for Sooo many things! I add it to fruit smoothies (weird, I know) but it somehow enhances the fruit taste as well as calms you stomach and aids in digestion. Good stuff!
M-51 H-54 2D-27 and 25 M-26 yrs Bombshell and IHS 7-29-15 He moved out 10-3-15 D filed 1-27-16 D final 10-27-16
Hi Gmum, there has been OW for 3 years now and he's living with her. My kids are 8 and 6, meaning that I have to have contact with him. I wish they'd be older as I won't need to talk to him!
Inpain when H comes round I take our dog out and don't stay in the same room as him when I come back.
I wait about 2 hours to reply to his texts or phone calls. It doesn't make any difference as now H completely blanks me when he comes around.
I don't initiate conversation with him and only speak about kids when needed. I can see H is completely gone and won't come back. I'm getting the same treatment as his first partner! That's what hurts the most because I'm nothing like her and he has put both of us on the same level
Ouch! That's really tough to take Rouky, I really feel for you. At least I don't have an OW in my sitch.
I think I need to try going out when H comes round to see the kids too.
