Real glad to see you posting. I can see the hurt in your posts. The tenor has shifted in your posts the past month or so. You were really upbeat when you were posting in my thread about a while back. Try to keep a PMA going my friend. Things will get better.
After reading lots of different peoples stories on here, I guess I have to consider myself lucky in a way. My wife left as soon as she possibly could and, to be honest, it was probably for the best. I don't if that is the death knoll for us or not but I cannot imagine living through an in house separation, seems terrible. Even the few weeks we were here together were tough. I admire you for being able to do it for so long.
I remember, similar to your hug story, the night of BD. I went to give my wife a kiss good night. Like your wife, she acted like it was the worst possible thing. So lesson learned, never did that again in the short time she remained living with me. My wife also said something along the lines of I don't think I could ever by physical with you again. That really bothered me for a bit, I was like how is that possible? But.... it is important to remember to believe nothing of what they say right? What they are saying is true in that moment of time but that moment of time only. That is how I think of it. I have no clue what she thinks now, but I don't worry about it.
What does she say you did to hurt her?
Anyway, just wanted to give you some support. Keep your head up.