So, let's back up to where you responded to my last post. Here is what I was wanting to know:
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Did you ever know what it was about you that she admired? Think about the man you were before M. What were you like back then? And, I really need you to answer this question, please.
Your answer was all about her. The only thing you told me about yourself was that you came from a wealthy family and you showed her love. Were you a teenager when you met her? Yes I was nearly 19 What type of personality did you have..........introvert or extrovert? I would say I was introvert What were some of your inner struggles? Some of my inner struggles I had a stammer when I was a child so had trouble making friends and as such I was bullied at school for the speech and for my being overweight I remember when I was 14 I liked a girl at school and one of my so called friends ...friend called upper up and told her that I wanted to do this and that to her I remember getting in trouble at school the next day I would not have said the things that he said I had said as I had not had many girlfriends and was extremely shy Did you have any guy friends? I did have 3 or 4 close guy friends when I was growing up Were you well liked in school. I did have friends at school however I was also bullied ......not b/c of your parents money, but for yourself? Were you pretty much given what you wanted, growing up? Growing my parents were comftable but I did have to work for things that I wanted I used to do paper rounds and then works in the news shop i would not say that I was given everything that I wanted ....my father used to abuse me more emotionally than physically about my weight I know you've said your W is the only sexual partner you've had, but did you ever have a steady girlfriend? No,
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not to any degree a very casual relationship whe I was about 15;
Maybe I am guilty of trying to analyze. I have seen that whenever anyone asks about your changes, you answer with things you are doing or maybe have stopped doing bad habits. I don't recall you changing or improving anything about the inner you. Outward change is good, but it's the mental/spiritual change or growth that will determine your peace and happiness. That is where the real you resides. That is the guy I would like to hear about. My peace and happiness you know I really do not know how to answer this ....As a child I know i felt unloved and I found happiness and love when I met my W .....I felt insecure as a child and I gues I still do my W is very good looking and I was fearful that she would want to leave me and find someone better .....through our marriage I was controlling my wife chose to let me control her she could have turn arround and said I want to go out with my friends and made me accept this instead she chose to keep me happy by not going out with her friends. I did not see her being unhappy because of this ...I did not see our understand .how wrong I was . .
Now some questions about when you first got married. How old were you? I was 28 How did your parents feel about you marrying this particular girl? My parents used to tell me that I was better than she was she came from a much smaller house and lived in a not so nice area they told me she was lucky to land a catch like me .... they both liked her my mum did especially both had concerns about the age gap Did your parents help you financially? Yes my parents helped us with our deposit on the first house and theŷ paid off my mortgage on our first house when we bought the second house and gave me some money to go towards the new house... my mum would also help me over the years if I was ever short of any money i was always able to ask her for help Did you ever feel that you had to give your W material things, in order for her to stay with you? No not at all she never used to ask me for very much
