I started to drop the rope, but with the holidays and some very pleasant family interactions here at home, I softened. I am still going to proceed with separation papers and figure out living arrangements, But I guess I still have that unrealistic? hope.
That is an example of why it would be impossible to stay under the same roof and think the two of you could have separate lives. Why would anyone want to live in that kind of hell?
I have seen couples physically separate and then later reconcile the MR, but I can't remember anyone on the board who stayed under the same roof.....saying they were S..........and then reconciling. Maybe there was and I just can't remember it. I think being S under the same roof is bad. It is a slow, tortuous death. every time the WW lays eyes on the H, she just detests him more. I say, get out of her way and let her learn reality on her own. I garantee you, I would not stick around anyone who did not love me, hoping they would change their mind. Seems to me a person would lose most of their dignity by subjecting themselves to that daily environment. However, that is just my own opinion. I think there is more hope if the couple goes to separate housing, and she goes through the WW sh't faster.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
