Kyrie, I think we are in a similar place, with the "spew" and the angry H and the being in limbo. In the last month or so I have come to the point where I am detaching, "dropping the rope" and it is starting to really click for me. It has taken me a VERY long time, this isn't easy, and I didn't find DB until 4 months in, and the journey is not a straight path. I have a few questions for you, to try to understand your situation a little better.
Can you give us a little bit of your history? How long has this been going on? What are your H's primary issues/complaints with you? Have you tried marriage counseling? Are you or your H in individual counseling? Do you have children? Have you read DB? Have you tried to implement any of the DB strategies yet?
Thank you for sharing your story, I think you will find that you have already received some amazing advice and the more you post and share the more you will benefit. I am sorry for your pain, but you are not alone and you are in a great place for support.
