Updated/still thinking about next steps

[kyrie]

What Zues wrote is very helpful - I think that's what I want...every night he assails me with wanting to "talk about things" but never "on your terms" (kyrie's terms, which means he has to be honest and not attack constantly). We're stuck in this cycle - we both know we need to talk, work through things, but he only attacks. Sometimes I just sat and listened, validated, etc. Sometimes he really wants me to react/respond and nothing less will satisfy - he'll keep poking the bear in order to get something to react to.