[BrightFuture]

Thanks, Gwen. Yesterday went uneventful, except for me drinking a few glasses of wine. Got an e-mail from H this morning, telling me that he will be in town today for a football game (college) tonight and if got the info from the accountant, he would like to cut himself a check, if possible. He asked me to send him a text if this works out.

I was going to send him a text anyway. So, I sent him a text with the number and that the pay needs to happen today, so I could pay taxes tomorrow. Then I’ve got a reply from the accountant that taxes can be paid next year, so this took some pressure off. I sent a text at about 8:30 this morning, and there was no reply until now. He texted back saying that he is at the border crossing and that he will call me later. And that he doesn’t have his computer with him. It takes no more than 2 hours to drive from the vacation home to the border. He should have gotten my text before he left, IDK. I guess bringing his computer with him was not a plan after all. This means he expected me to do this on my computer and hand him the check. Not sure what time he wants to do this. The game starts at 7:30. I’m working from home today, but I haven’t told him yet. Normally, I would be at work and not getting home before 6 pm. Not sure what kind of thinking going on in his head.

I will be kind again and will cut him his check. I’m just waiting on what the next move will be on his part, timing wise or any other arrangements he is thinking about.

So, it seems that this tradition of him coming to town for this annual college football game is not going anywhere. It used to be three of us, with my BIL (H’s brother.) Last couple of years it was H, BIL and his GF. This year it going to be just the two of them. I just wish this would not be this time year, around holidays and before the New Years, my favorite holiday. He always finds some business he needs to do with me when he is here. It just creates some anxiety for me every time. I will need to figure out how not to get sucked into this next year.

Interesting thing is that he does it with his brother, while they are not even getting along anymore. I sense there is some kind of tension or unexpressed feelings between them. My mutual friends in Mexico told me that they asked about H’s brother, his surgery and what they did together. H’s reply was that they went to the bars, but they didn’t really talk, just sat there watching some games on TV and drinking. He said he and his brother don’t really talk to each other. This was a surprise to me. They used to be close.

Oh, and another thing. I’ve got a card from him in the mail yesterday. It is one of these cards he sends to his family and friends every year, with some humor about Christmas (he is still a Mr. Grinch.) It is addressed to me, my son and his GF. With his standard “Hope all’s well”. He put “Love” at the end though. I think last year there were two different cards, one for me and another one for my son and GF. Forgot to mention that I also gave him a card for New Years. It was with the rest of his mail I took with me when I went to the vacation home last week. I have the mail to my mutual friends to pass it to H.

Anyway, waiting for H’s call. Staying calm.