You're very honest and can see this from many sides Trumpet. I have a lot of respect for the path that you're on and the decisions you're making. Sandi is the pro here so I won't interject other than to say I believe you're a good man living in a tough situation.

If D is the answer for your W, you will be ok. I'm where you are too and have worked through addiction as part of my M. Porn wasn't my main issue but it was there as a numb-er too. Now that you're free of it you're going to feel everything and the ability to do so is the greatest gift you can give yourself. I've said many times if getting my W back meant being addicted again, I wouldn't take her. If that's how it has to be than that's how it has to be. Life is so much richer now with clarity.

There is always another part of our stories too. Right now yours is painful and awful and terrifying. In time it may not seem that way.

Keep walking in the light Trumpet. Someone else commended you for your honesty with a subject that is hard to talk about and I'll do the same. Your courage and integrity will take you into a beautiful relationship be that with your W or someone else.

PP

Last edited by PigPen; 12/30/15 07:08 PM.

M 39 W 36
T5 M3
BD - 1/15 Separated - Same Day
Served 9/15
D finalized 6/17