Quote: I always come home from work with a to-do list a mile long while he sits in front of the TV or on the computer or goes to the gym.
I'd be a little resentful of that, unless he's disabled, works in a coal mine, or has some other iron-clad reason not to pitch in. When you cook, does he clean up afterward? I used to do both, but set a boundary recently that if I do one, she does the other. It didn't go over well, but I'm standing firm.
If he's not pitching in because cleaning and cooking are "women's work," welcome him to the new millenium. It might have been women's work in the 1950s, but now, especially when both spouses work, it's just housework, and I think it's gender neutral.
