I merged your post in with your previous thread, please stick to one thread until 100 posts.
Have you read all the homework in my first post? Including the resource threads?
She seems to be following the script with confusion. Note that confusion is the greatest at the start of this, and at the end.
I understand you still love her, however you need to protect yourself and your children. She thinks that divorce is the magic bullet that will give her happiness. The more you stand in the way of her quest for happiness the longer this takes, you need to "let go" and as you said do it because you love her. Let her do the work for the divorce. Don't help her do it.
