Try not to be the angry guy. Your wife will just use that to paint you as the bad guy. People who don't know all the details will also think you're the bad guy.
The fact that you taking off your ring had an impact on your wife means that detaching, doing GAL, making your own plans without consulting her, etc. will work. You scared her when you did that. She wants you as her guarantee while she explores other relationships. That is hugely disrespectful to you but will continue as long as you let it continue. Don't get angry, just detach and do your own thing, whatever that may be. Whatever makes you happy. I think in your case it will work. Especially with the ring reaction. That speaks volumes.
