In the past, H has said that he would be happy with ML once per week. To me, that's a totally reasonable goal.
As far as getting my needs met as far as the LL go, that's a joke and a half. My top LLs are Acts of Service and Receiving Gifts. Neither of them happen very often around here from his end. But of course, if I ask for those things (which I have in the past) remarking that I would feel more like ML if I don't have to do all the chores around the house, H says "fine, but if I did everything around here, you still wouldn't want to ML". So you can see that I have to start making some changes on my end first before I even THINK about asking for anything from H.
