We're good now. She says she doesn't even recognize herself during that period. She turned 45 and freaked out. It happens. We endured. The secret for us was that I had to be willing to let go of a 26 year marriage in order to save it. As long as I was the nice guy, the supportive guy, etc. she just wouldn't respond. When I truly started moving on is when she says she woke up and realized what she had with our family and how close she was to losing it for good. Our daughter was only 11 when we found out about her mother's affair. She didn't speak to her mother for over a year. Today their relationship is still very fragile. My daughter lost all respect for her mother. Now she's 14 and wanting to rebel. I lay down the law but whenever her mother tries it turns into a big blowup. Our DD will say who are you to tell me about right and wrong? If my W says I'm your mother then our DD will laugh and say did you think about that when you were laying with him (OM)? Then my wife cries and runs out of the room and I ground our daughter. Repairing their relationship is something that is still very dicey but we're committed to healing and growing. Thank you for asking.
