Back from the trip. The kids had an amazing time! It was hot hot hot . This was the perfect place for kids of all ages but especially young adults. There were a lot of kids their age they hung out with, lots of beach, pool, social activities. We ate lunch and dinner together everyday and hung out all afternoon at the pool. Let me just say they had a lot of fun and are now exhausted. It's the old "need a vacation from the vacation" time.
I loved seeing my kids have so much fun. We have never done this kind of trip before ( all inclusive as young adults)
Christmas was different. It was hard for me. I went to mass alone ( it was in Spanish) and I cried. I felt very lonely.
Once H found out we were gone he came to house to get some of his stuff but discovered the locks were changed (if he had informed me he was coming over I would have told him ) he got so angry he sent me a message saying that I had "changed the rules of the game" by locking him out of his house and by taking the kids away at Christmas
I sat in the lobby weeping as I read this. Here I had gone on this trip to get away from the weight of all this, the pain of all this and his message made me feel like I had done this horrible thing. HE IS LIVING WITH OW !!! Is that not a game changer? Wth????
I replied first by telling him this wasnt a game it was our lives and he wasn't locked out he could use automatic opener and it was a unanimous decision by the kids to go away during Christmas. They had every opportunity to see him before going and they chose not to. And then I said something I probably shouldn't have. I told him how much pain I have been in and how much I love him. And the thought of him and "her" going into our home while we were away was torture
I am glad that I was able to give my kids this opportunity but I did not feel refreshed or renewed by going away. It was hard to be there without H I thought of him constantly I ended up crying to a couple about him this was a very nice couple who's kids were hanging out with my kids. They were telling me how my youngest was concerned and wanted me to meet and hang out with other adults. They thought this was so sweet
I just feel like this trip made things so much worse with H
When we got home we discovered he had broken in the back door and damaged the door - now it doesn't lock. He took more of his stuff but left presents under the tree - the kids were really angry
