I am going to be blunt because that's what I do:) I refrain from posting you mostly, because I know you may just not be in a spot to receive what I have to say and the way I say it. So I respect that. But I want you to really take a look.
You know very well you can just ignore him. You keep telling him you want him to leave you alone. Yu respond and respond, and he bites back and he bites back, and he clearly has no intention right now of making any really changes and following through, and you are a smart woman and you know that.
He will go away if you ignore him. he will stick around if you keep throwing him bait.
I think you might be scared to completely let go. You are holding onto him by a thread. You both are doing the same thing.
I did this to someone for a few years. Not my ex, to someone else. Not until I completely let go, which wasn't easy, did I open the door for the real stuff.
You know what you need to do. you know the cause and effect of the push pull, and of the response of whether or not it be angry or nice.
I guess it's a question of whether or not you are ready to completely ready to let him go. Only you know the answer to that. But holding onto the thread with him in this state isn't really going to get either of you anywhere.
