I had the same thoughts before about my M, dday. I went back and forth from trying to make her happy and being a POS because it made no differance. I regularly felt like I was never a priority for her. They are broken and need to fix themselves, just as we were. They can't make themselves happy so they look elsewhere and it never comes. Deeper thought is that they can't make themselves happy because they don't love themselves and you can't love anyone else until you love yourself first.

It's sad but nothing we can do about it. It shows that right now we're better off going down this path and hopefully something jumps start their desire to change like BD did for us.

Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be