Hey Cattlkid . . . . thanks for posting that update. Every now and then its really really nice to read about a LD spouse who has an interest in making things better for their spouse. Its even nicer to hear one say they think they are beginning to understand the hurt rejection causes. Im actually smiling . . . . . and maybe in a small way hoping that my own wife will turn into you someday =)
This is a really mechanical suggestion and you can take it or leave it . . . . . but regarding the initiation on your part when you just never think about it . . . .. Have you ever thought about doing something like a dayplanner? What I mean is, just keep track of the when it happens and who started it. Get into the habit of looking at the calendar every day or two and use it to keep your "appointments" for starting something on your own. I know its mechanical, and I know it may seem as though it would take the fun out of it, but the thought behind this is that after a point the whole thing would become habit for you and eventually you'll no longer need the calendar. But until you reach that point, it will force you to think about it, plan ahead, anticipate . . . . . eventually you may even begin to look forward to it.
