B's 10-Week Bootcamp

[RosaLinda]

And she gave me some pointers on how to approach my OkCupid profile, and she suggested that I try 'MeetUp' and 'Tinder', so guess what? I did.

None of us are the morality police, at least not your morality police, B, but I can see you potentially veering off into dangerous teritory here. OKCupid is a dating site, not a meet up site, and Tinder is a hook-up site. GAL is one thing, dating and hooking up while still married another. I know you do not think there will be any dating or hooking up as of this minute, but you are a hurting vulnerable man, very vulnerable to women coming on to you and fulfilling your emotional needs. Maybe you could consider asking your Divorce Care leader for advice on these two sites? I'm a frigging lot older than you, but in my view, if we date while still married, even if it is just casual, we are no better than our cheating spouses.

I'm not trying to hook up, or make my wife jealous. I view it as dating, pre-k maybe? I don't know. I have no idea what's going to happen. I know I'm not in any condition for a relationship, and I don't want that. But I think spending time chatting, talking, and possible doing stuff with women will be good for me.

Spending time, talking, and possibly doing stuff with people in general will be good for you. In groups, not one on one with women. Stuff like you mentioned the meet-up group doing, like hiking. Sorry to disagree with TxHubby here, but you are just 11 weeks into this insanity, and are still reeling. We all need to heal and grow before we're ready to start a new relationship, in all fairness to yourself, and the new woman.