Eventually if he continues the lack of communication I am just going to tell him I want to proceed with divorce. I really feel that life is too short for me to be in this state. I want intimacy and a relationship. I got through the worst part already.
These are the exact same arguments we hear from WAS's and misguided counselors. 'Life is too short'. 'I want' (my needs met). 'I'm through the worst part.'
You're here because you want to save your M - not just for you, but for the benefit of your very young children. You believe in M. You meant your vows.
Now you're angry he hasn't taken initiative to reconcile. Your're tired of living in limbo after less than 6 months?
I don't want to sound harsh but this does not sound like Divorcebusting to me...
The way you cope with limbo is GAL'ing and detaching. Not slamming divorce papers on the table because he didn't follow up on his reconciling talk.
You're dealing with another human being who has his own pace and who has been miserable for a long time. Not saying it was your fault, but he was hurting. It's going to take a while for him to decide if he is willing to risk getting hurt again. He has reasons to reconcile, and reasons not to. Are you giving him more reasons to want to than not to?
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
