First off thanks to everyone who posted on my thread from last week "DH and his comments". Lots of good thought starters there. Also been reading other folks' posts and really began to realize the amount of pain that I am causing H when I reject his advances.
Update: After posting last week, H came home from the gym on Monday night and said something totally witty like "get naked?" So I said, sure why not. Totally floored him. We did ML not only on Monday but Thursday as well. No ML for rest of weekend due to visit from Aunt Flo.
I have been taking hairdog's advice and countering with humor whenever DH flips out another one of his brilliant comments. I think it is working...at least it is better than me flipping back with a snotty remark and it escalating into a "you never...", "well, you won't ever..." you know the type of conversation/arguement.
Still reading the book. Through chapter three and just starting chapter 4. Have to return book to library on Monday so must pick up pace on the reading. Went to dr. today for complete thyroid panel to rule out hormone issues. Will see what that says...I have a sneaking suspicion that 8 years of hormonal BC has wreaked havoc but like someone said, I'm not going to pin all hopes on that and exclude everything else.
One thing did resonate with me quite loudly when reading the book...the desire-arousal vs. arousal-desire cause/effect relationship. I just don't have sexual thoughts (don't know why, can't figure it out) but I do know that when H does touch me, I do get interested and have no problems completing the act. It aggravates him b/c he wants me to initiate but how does one initiate when one never thinks about sex spontaneously? Something to ponder....
Well, must rescue dog from outside as it sounds like he is tormenting neighbor kids (or is it other way 'round?)
