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Interesting about the bank trust. Ex and I owned a piece of land in Baja, in the divorce I gave him that property, just signed a quitclaim here in the U.S. the property is/was embroiled in a title dispute and I have no idea if that was ever settled or not. I've certainly never seen or signed any Mexican paperwork except for when we bought it.

Perhaps if the title issue gets resolved and ex kicks the bucket, it will turn out that I still own it???

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Kml, if you have established a bank Trust on both of your names in Mexico (called Fideicomiso) and if it was never re-done, then your name is still in it. Quitclaim in the US doesn’t matter. If he would re-do the bank trust at some point, you would know about it, as Mexican bank would contact you, so you could officially sign the papers. It costs a lot of money to re-do the bank trust too. So, I’m thinking that you still own the property along with him. I would suggest to find out the trust account number (if you don’t have it) and keep it in a safe place, in case something happens to your Ex.

Tomorrow would be our 20 year anniversary. I hope I will not slip into a depressive episode because of that. So far, I’m ok. The good thing is that H hasn’t delivered the D papers, like he mentioned to our mutual friend he wanted to do on our anniversary. I guess there is still a chance… I hope it will not happen though.

I was dreading this date… But, I will leave through it.


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This morning I'm actually glad I have to go to work. I need to be with people today.

A few years ago I was thinking about this date that it would be a special day for us. The reality today is a lot different. How sad.


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Im sorry BF

working and being busy is good for us

Your H lacks in the empathy department
even to think and tell a friend he's thinking of D papers on your anniversary

these guys are so off
please take extra care of yourself
Sometimes I practice not allowing myself to get negative or depressed when I feel bad thoughts closing in on me-
it sometimes works!


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Hi Bright - just want to let you know I am thinking of you. I know it is a tough day for you.

It is wise to be around people and to keep yourself busy. Go for a long walk or some other form of physical activity.

I am thinking of you today and sending positive thoughts out to you.


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Peace, thanks for your support. I really need it today.

I was practicing positive thoughts today, until I received an email from our accountant about company books. She sent the number that we need to pay out of company account in order to reduce the taxes.

I need to send this number to H, so he could pay himself. Then I will need to pay taxes before the end of the year. It would be best if I let H know today, because tomorrow might be too late for taxes. But, I really don't want to contact him today. I want to ignore him, just like he's been ignoring me.

I am split... And very stressed now... I don't know what I want to do.


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HaWho, thank you. Just saw your post.


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Bright - what if you ask the accountant to forward the info. directly to your h?


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I cannot reach her today. I sent her an email with the questions and the tried to call a few time. To no avail.


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Bright - Anniversaries are tough. I hope you had as many distractions as possible. Thinking of you. {{{hugs}}}


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