Thanks Inpain, how did you manage to DB and get back with your H the first time? I feel I'm doing wrong in DB myself! Too much emphasis on WH!
Well, the first time I Divorce Busted it all seemed so much easier than this time. H just came home from work very late one evening and told me he hadn't had to work late, he had been sitting at work thinking and he was leaving me. It was completely out of the blue and I was devastated. It was the day after our S's 2nd birthday. He moved out the next day to a friend's house across the road. I text, rang, cried and begged for about 2 weeks. In that time his mobile phone bill came and it was itemised due to him being self employed at the time. It was a fortune and there were calls and text to one number over and over for about a month. I called it and there was OW on the other end. This prompted me to search online for help and I ordered DR. I read it in 24hours flat and immediately went dark. After 2 weeks of NC whatsoever (he didn't contact me either) H suddenly text asking if I wanted to take S out for the day together. We went and had a great time. Every 4 or 5 days he would do the same and after a couple of weeks I broked down in tears. He said he wanted to keep having days out but nothing else and to not cry or he would stop coming round at all. So, I did the only thing I could do, which was carry on going on the days out but making sure there was no R talk or crying. 4 months after he left he text asking me if I would like to go out for a meal just the two of us on a Saturday night. About a week prior to that we'd also gone to the cinema just the two of us. We had a great night but still no R talk. The next morning he came round and took S and I out to town shopping. It was a couple of weeks before Christmas. On the way home from town he told me that he'd like to come home and try to work things out but that he wanted to take things slowly. Obviously, I was elated and he moved back in the next day. He slept in spare room for almost 3 months and then just as suddenly as he announced coming home, he decided we could sleep in same room again. The rest is history as they say. So, looking back on it now I don't feel like I had to do too much at all to initially get him to start rethinking. Just 2 weeks of going dark! But another 3 months of no R talk and family days out initiated only by him, never by me.
