Wow. I am envious and impressed. You sound like you're viewing it all with clear focus and an uninterrupted view. Good for you!
This whole process really does take time, so the slower you work towards R, the better off you'll be when it comes to M.
I'm resigned to it taking several years - if it ever does resolve. But I cannot say the time I plan to take for myself with be a waste. There's are so many things I want to do. Life is so much simpler when there is onl ne schedule to look at.
Have fun at the sales! I hope you find something quite epic.
Boxing day is the day after Xmas, traditionally the day presents or boxes were distributed from employers to staff. Including food to the poor and vulnerable
Hence boxing day, it's also a bank holiday.
A UK and Commonwealth thing, just thinking if Independence hadn't happened, in the US you would have boxing day. You would give up thanksgiving though!
Hmm mm
We have more holidays though, so on balance was the Boston T party a good idea?
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
I guess living in Canada is a bonus. We have Boxing Day and Thanksgiving.
Picked up some nice jeans (with sparkles), a sweater and 2 jeggings for under $70. Score!!! Also picked up a cat tree for the two cats at my sons house. Dropped it off and spent half an hour watching them. They absolutely love it!!! Tomorrow, might go out again. I need a couch. The lawn chairs are getting uncomfortable.
H called when he woke up. Just because. He called last night too. Still feels weird that he is reaching out to me.
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Di-mond in the rough M-45 H-38 My children S-25 D-23 T 5 M 4 H left April Fools Day 2015
I'm good mutatio. I hope you are doing good as well.
Busy getting my new place into shape. I spent most of yesterday and today running around looking at furniture and picking up what I can. I'm going all black in my living room. Scored some really nice black leather reclining love seats for a really good price. Picked up some shelves as well. Work in progress. I also got some blood tests done, visited with my mom and my BFF and invested some money at my bank.
On a not so good front, my poor kitty is sick again. He's been at the vet since yesterday. I stopped by to see him this morning and heading there again in an hour. I'm hoping to bring him home tomorrow. Going to cost me a fortune, but he is so worth it. I hope I can learn how to do all this stuff for him next year when I go to school for animal care.
H front...well it's quiet. He calls me a couple of times a day and texts me a few times. It's almost like it was before BD, just we don't live together. I worked rotating shifts, so we really only saw each other on weekends (if I wasn't working). It feels calm, but something is gnawing at me. I don't want to go back to the M we had. I want better, more. I have changed so much in the last 9 months. I get that you can't sustain the honeymoon feelings forever and always, but there needs to be a whole lot more deeper communication than "Miss you! Love you! Xoxo". I know...I have to slow down, can't overwhelm him or I'll just push him away again. But eventually I will have to tell him what I need from him to make this marriage work on a long term basis. Communicate!!! Just not yet. There is a Retrouvaille running in the town he lives in, in March. Maybe I can convince him to go. If not then definitely MC.
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Di-mond in the rough M-45 H-38 My children S-25 D-23 T 5 M 4 H left April Fools Day 2015
No mutatio, it's not over. He told me on Christmas Eve that he is not ok with me moving on. That he loves me and misses me, but needs to figure himself out. It's a start...we will see where it goes.
Di-mond in the rough M-45 H-38 My children S-25 D-23 T 5 M 4 H left April Fools Day 2015
Poor kitty is still at the vets. 3 nights now. He has problems with his colon. I'm hoping to bring him home tomorrow. He is being such a trooper considering what he has to go through (multiple enemas and manual extraction). He is still so loving and docile. I miss having him in bed with me more than I miss having my H in bed with me. Lol!
On a totally unrelated note. I told my mom tonight that I'm spending New Years with H. She told me that if I get back together with him that her and I are done. She will disown me. Grumble! I get why she is so upset. If someone hurt my child I wouldn't want them to go back to them either, but this is my life and I do love him. I think in my mothers eyes, no one will ever be good enough, no one will ever measure up to the kind of man my dad was. She caused lots of problems in my previous relationships as well. Just keeping her out of it for now. I don't need her negativity as H and I are trying to figure out how to move forward together.
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