Recent Hurricane 2

[NateG79]

I suppose. I believe the W is spinning pretty hard now. She did lash out at me a few times while venting last night. Some interesting points that she had brought up

1. Reconciliation was not her goal when this separation originally began. Regardless of whether the A worked out or not, she didn't think she could come back to me.

2. She's concerned about setting an example of how to be loved to our D2. She didn't want D to think that neglect and being ignored was a good sign of a relationship. I validated, but also said that by D'ing, it was also diminishing what role I had in my D's life of how a man should love her. That one bit me in the feels.

3. How "in love" she was with this relationship after only 4 months. Also bit me in the feels.

4. I'll tell you, it was the Nate Blame Train during the conversation. I didn't battle her on anything, only listened and validated when possible.

5. Her mother was telling her things like "He really loves you, and he doesn't want to split up the family, he's trying to win you back." But she mentioned that when she would see me, that it didn't feel like that. I validated that I could see why she might think that, but also asked, "If you're in a relationship with another man, what is there I could do to show you that? I was simply trying to adjust to life without you in it."

6. She did land that she had had some brief thoughts of R last week when she had time to actually settle and think about things. But says that she's always so busy, doesn't ever have time to think. I don't press her, and she lives separately from me, and I believe I give her tons of time and space, so I don't know what she's talking about here.

Just a couple of notes that I remember. There was lots more, but those were some of the main ones that stick out.