You are absolutely correct. The WW may not want to stay in a MR with her LBH, but neither does she want him to replace her with another woman.
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Do I tell her what I'd need to see in her in order to consider reconciliation or do I just keep moving along and let her figure it out? Do I wait for her to bring up R talk or do I bring it up? not sure the correct strategy at this time. I'm probably looking at another month before she moves out.
I have seen some LBH'S go into his long list of stipulations, without his WW even hinting that she was remotely interested. I think it is a big mistake, b/c he is essentially letting her know he will be available if she'll just meet his conditions. If she doesn't ask.........don't bring it up. Personally, I think he makes himself appear a little silly and desperately hoping it's not over. He does not need to express his conditions unless she sincerely asks.
From this point forward, I think you need to stay out of her way. Become the guy a woman would have to work hard to have. If she isn't served anymore cake in the bedroom, and you start spending a lot of time away from the house........she may become curious. When a man becomes hard for a woman to get, it is like saying sic'em to a dog.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
