Dealing with WW, Divorce, and Kids 3

[WhyUs]

Your a mess V!!! Your right. Actions speak louder than words in many aspects of life.

I invited ww over for Xmas morning. Told her she could bring her mom or dad. I also invited her over for Xmas eve to watch a movie with the girls and me. I did that yesterday morning via text and have not received a response. For the kids sake I hope she makes the right decision. I just know there has to be some sense of right still in her.

[sandi2]

The kids called the other day and it went to my voicemail. They did not hang up so about 2 minutes of recording took place. WW can be heard making a disparaging remark about me to the kids. Its sad. I hope she can find peace one day.

It takes a really strong person to hear something like that, and then be able to wish her peace.

FWIW, sometimes when one parent says bad things about the other parent, instead of turning the kids against him.......it does the opposite.

Some day it will all come out in the wash.

[WhyUs]

Thanks Sandi. I would not have said this two months ago. Something within me is changing. Its hard for me to describe it. I know she is ill right now. All I can do is lead by example. Everyone involved will be better for it.

[WhyUs]

For some reason I am struggling today. I'm just feeling sad. I am not sure if it is the holidays or what. The kids are with WW for the rest of winter break. So I will not have them for 10 days. I don't think that is it though. I really yearn to speak with WW right now. I just want this to be over. I want her to come back to the person she was. I never thought it would ever turn out like this. I accept out M is over. It's just hard knowing that we never even be friends.

When all of this started she talked about getting divorced and still being best friends. As soon as I put up resistance she turned into a monster. She does everything in her power to hurt me. From what I read this is to be expected. I just had no idea it would go on this long.

When I feel like this I wonder if I am just kidding myself when I say I am ready to move on with my life.

[WhyUs]

I received a visit from the police today. WW complained that I violated the custody order by asking if she wanted to come over for Christmas Eve and Christmas morning through text message instead of email. She also complained that I sent two biblical quotes to her about two months ago. The officer was nice and said to not do it again for my own sake. I was able to show where she sent me direct texts as well which also violated the order. He said he would use that as evidence in order to write a balance report. Every cop I have dealt with has been super nice and understanding. I'm thankful for that. He asked who my judge was and I told him. He said I lucked out because he is a very fair judge.

My L was not concerned and said I should not be either. I had also sent a message to her employer (so to speak) about the affair. It was not a violation of the order but the cop recommended that I do not do that. My L said she will probably say this is why she is withholding the children from me. She was withholding the kids long before that message so it will likely not matter.

She really is pulling out all the stops. A very angry WW indeed.

[WhyUs]

So all those times I felt like she saw me letting go were over ridden by these messages. Oh well, nothing I can do to change it now. I just plan on moving forward regardless of her feelings. I am in a different place now than when I sent the messages.

The custody hearing has been scheduled. However, The judge just sent down an order for us to try mediation prior to the hearing.