She's thinking of leaving again2

[Sotto]

Hi Scrant (sorry for the Scranton above - my IPad keeps wanting me to call you that!)

I think the whole 'texting as usual' thing is compartmentalisation - I can do this over here, which doesn't impact on that over there. But the fact is - a decision to leave a M for an A partner has far reaching and long lasting consequences. These just aren't evident in the heat of infatuation - but they become more evident over time - and as the infatuation fades many WAS's begin to wonder whether what they left for is truly worth it.

And of course, the fact that the AP was willing to get involved with a married person in the first place, means that they probably aren't worth it. I think most healthy people with high esteem when faced with that temptation would feel they wouldn't want to cause that degree of pain to others - ie: they would see Beyond the 'Rush' to the consequences....

Sounds like you are doing well with limiting your responses and not buying in to your W's vision of 'how great things can be with Scrant and my S post-separation' - maybe we can all go on a nice camping trip together next Summer and the guys will all get along...

I suspect your W will keep on pushing at that boundary and you will need to keep it kindly and firmly in place. Keep on keeping on there - it's early days yet my friend xx