Not bad PP, not bad. She likes you, that's important. All you can do is grow and share when she's interested. I think it is important not to push, offer kind compassionate dialog whenever she is open to it. Be well
Thanks Mu, I'm not pushing anything and I agree with you. She's finally not scared to come nibble out of my hand, but also still is. The last thing I want to do is spook her. We've got two more dog swaps and then I'm on the road for 12 months so nothing is going to happen. She won't have access to me for those 12 months and I don't know how that makes her feel. I truly don't. I know I miss her, but am also excited about having a life and relationship that was so much better than the one I had with her.
Appreciate you stopping by and dropping wisdom for me!
PP
M 39 W 36 T5 M3 BD - 1/15 Separated - Same Day Served 9/15 D finalized 6/17
Hi PP. just my two cents worth here. Great convo and I don't want to judge but the " fear of you thing " is hard to hear but it's how she believes she felt.
reading your posts you certainly don't come across that way but maybe with the alcohol a slightly darker side emerged ???? Either way this is how she feels and it's something you can look at in yourself while remembering it's her view and not necessarily the absolute truth
Going forward all you can control is you and et the universe take care of the rest
PP , you have become a man only a fool would leave , your path is clear and stick to it It's working Relax back from expectations BUT it's going the right way. Your W is gaining respect for you and as Sandi says , that's where it starts
Have a great 2016 brother. Positive thoughts heading your way Rd xx
(((PP))) Emotions run high during the holiday season. Who knows what she will feel tomorrow. Keep zero expectations. Keep your current path. It is showing results. Not time to alter course. I triple checked, and there is no iceberg up ahead
Me: 42 H: 45 M: 18 yrs T: 20 yrs D: 17 D: 15 S: 12 I kicked him out 8/21/15 I will DB until March 21st 2017, that is it!
Hi PP. just my two cents worth here. Great convo and I don't want to judge but the " fear of you thing " is hard to hear but it's how she believes she felt.
reading your posts you certainly don't come across that way but maybe with the alcohol a slightly darker side emerged ???? Either way this is how she feels and it's something you can look at in yourself while remembering it's her view and not necessarily the absolute truth
Going forward all you can control is you and et the universe take care of the rest
PP , you have become a man only a fool would leave , your path is clear and stick to it It's working Relax back from expectations BUT it's going the right way. Your W is gaining respect for you and as Sandi says , that's where it starts
Have a great 2016 brother. Positive thoughts heading your way Rd xx
Thank you as always Rd, you have a great way of framing things. I was actually a happy drinker (in my W's terms), I think she interpreted my frustrations from work and life as a deep seeded anger. Perhaps she was right, I know I was upset often at feeling like my own situation would never change.
I appreciate you saying that she's gaining respect for me, I hope so. I'm going to follow everyone's advice and just keep moving forward.
Cheers my friend.
PP
M 39 W 36 T5 M3 BD - 1/15 Separated - Same Day Served 9/15 D finalized 6/17
(((PP))) Emotions run high during the holiday season. Who knows what she will feel tomorrow. Keep zero expectations. Keep your current path. It is showing results. Not time to alter course. I triple checked, and there is no iceberg up ahead
Very true about the holidays, she may have just missed me more. It was an anniversary of sorts for us as well.
Appreciate your support and humor Mona!
PP
M 39 W 36 T5 M3 BD - 1/15 Separated - Same Day Served 9/15 D finalized 6/17
Will be spending the evening with some friends and then getting up early on the day of. I'm going to paddle out and surf and then come back home to meditate and write. It's a huge year for me, and I want to start it in a really healthy, centered way.
How about you?
PP
M 39 W 36 T5 M3 BD - 1/15 Separated - Same Day Served 9/15 D finalized 6/17
Hmm...I've never really celebrated New Years....I'll probably work a bit more on my collection of short stories, and then head to bed early. I think I'm going to try and do some agility with my younger pup on NY's day, so will need my rest.
E
M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out
