Becky, I'm sorry you are having to deal w/divorce issues as well as flooding. Both are a PIA to deal with.
I'm not surprised your h hasn't done anything. Some of them won't do the work and expect others to do it or they realize it's too much work and hope it can slide.
The blame game is very famous w/them. I'm just glad your house sitter discovered the issue before it got even worse. Hopefully not a lot of your belongings are damaged.
Breathe! You've got this and the clean up crew will take care of the flooding for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
