I guess it just feels like a blow to any hope I feel I have to getting my marriage back. Thoughts?
Here is my belief on this subject.
YOU get to decide when your marriage is truly over, not her. YOU are divorced, legally, so you must continue to MOVE FORWARD and live your life "as if" she is never coming back. YOU make yourself into a person that only a FOOL would leave.
Probably around the time that you don't care and are completely healed, she may look back to you and express regret.
So put whatever your feelings for her away in a strong box. Put the box in your closet high up and out of the way on a shelf. Later in your life you can take the box down dust it off and look inside to see what is left.
I do believe that in the end the LBS get to make the FINAL decision on the marriage. If you have not gotten to make this decision yet then it is not yet the end.
