I was going to make similar points but I'll bow to the voice of experience.

I just wanted to add, that IF W does repent and want back, I would not respond immediately. I'd get back to her about it. That will show her you are not just waiting for her, plus you can come here for tips.

But that could be a long time away if ever. I just wanted to say it just in case.

I suppose all of us on this site don't think the same way as WAS, but if I wanted out, I too would not want to be around the lbs.Don't try to figure it out. Maybe she wants to minimise fallout so no consequences.Maybe it is the Christmas spirit forcing her. Maybe she likes your flat. And yes maybe she wants huddy time. There are hundreds of possible reasons. And not all are positive.

I say that to keep your hopes and expectations low.


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together