New guy

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I had some stuff to return to my mother in law from before Christmas, and the W invited me to stay for supper. It was nice, no talk of the R, or anything like that. Just about movies, the weather, her classes, work, etc.

Said goodbye, she gave me a hug, and she went back to her schoolwork.

Her mom says to me as she is locking the door behind me, "At first she was happy you were leaving her alone and giving her space. Now she is getting aggravated you aren't calling, texting or emailing. She went to the house on Sunday to see what the heck you were up to, and the house was spotless, and you weren't there. She was floored. She even gave you crap about one little thing and you thanked her for reminding you. Keep it up."

Her mom smiled and said that she is seeing her attitude break. She said that in some way I made the W feel like she was a failure from constant criticism. The mother in law isn't judging me though.

When it came to the W's life, school, and work I thought I did a good job affirming her because I have always admired her for those things and how hard she works, and how amazing she is. The criticism I believe she is speaking of is how she handles money, and wastes food/beer/wine/$6 coffees (which is money). Her mom was lead to believe I starve the W for money, but the truth is, if I said how much our personal play money allowances are, it would cause a jaw drop. It's not a rich man's stipend by any account, but when others have told me what their allowances are for them and their spouse, it's usually 2-4 times more per month.

Anyhow, good workout today. I have a therapy appointment today, chiropractic appointment, and seeing Star Wars again in the theater. Loving this movie.