Originally Posted By: ATPeace


Azzork I will try and see if I can answer some of my own questions please can tell me if I am on the right lines

Sandi

On a previous post you talked about respect

You Said respect does not require love and that a woman first has to respect her h as a Man before she can desire him as her husband

And you said that respect does not require love I am wondering how she will have respect for me how can this happen ???

So I understand that I need to be a great father to my children and I have already stepped up in this department considerably and I am doing so much more with my children than I used to do ...I realise this makes me a better parent .I have to also pull my weight with regard to the house chores not because this was something that my wife complained about during our marriage but because it is the right thing to do in an equal relationship amd I will continue to work on these two areas to become a better father This s great

So How do I gain her respect back ?
If everything starts with this ok I am going to take a stab at this myself you do this by not trying to get her respect back by backing off giving her the divorce that she wants let her go leave the marriage leave the house go and start a new life with out you you do not try to win her back ...you do this by stopping chasing after her ......is this right ??

I do see that my W has gone has left our M I just want to start rebuilding things and I am trying to do this by trying to show her my love as her husband ghost give up trying to get her back give up in the life that you had do things for you and for your children if she wants back in then she will come to you....you cannot go to her I remember reading somewhere that I would have to do things differently I cannot remember exactly what or how I do not know the answer to this

I still think that it is better to be still in the same house ...I see being in separate houses I would not see her hardly at all so i see this as us getting further apart No ghost you are better to be in separate houses you need to let your W go let her divorce you if she wants there is nothing you can do to change her mind I know you think that you can work on it or you can do or say something that may help but the bottom line is you cannot