We are talking to explore the truth, find out what each other really wants, increasing our understanding of where things went wrong with the M to get better clarity and make better decisions about how to move forward, what to work on individually, etc.
I understand that this may make you feel better.
But does it get you closer to your goals?
I think so, but I'm unsure about whether I'm doing things in the best order. Maybe I'm jumping the gun? Getting clarity on what went wrong with the M through conversations with my W gives me clues about my own contributions to what went wrong, and helps me to see what I can do (or stop doing) that might help to increase my attractiveness (or decrease my unattractiveness).
I think to a point, there is some benefit to reflective conversation with W. I'm not sure that continually rehashing and discussing the failures in the M by yourselves is a healthy way forward though. I don't know what's best, but in my opinion, you will learn and share much more through actions than you ever can through words.
How much more is there to "learn" here that you won't see through living your lives?
