I dont think she is staying at the shelter anymore. I think she only lived there for 5 weeks because around the 6th week when she got a job i saw her truck at her moms 2 nights in a row and i know in the shelter they dont let you stay anywhere else they are pretty strict. But i could be wrong because i havent seen her truck at her moms anymore at night so right now i am clueless as to where she is staying.
I dont have any family member that talks to her unfortunately. All her family i have cut off specially her mom the only person i actually trusted. I cut her off when i found out she phone recorded me after i told her i followed her daughter to the shelter 3 months ago when i didnt know where she had gone to live with my daughters.
I did talk to my L about everything you mentioned painter , about the cooperating classes/ parental evaluation and req her anger management classes too.
Ever since she left i have deposited checks to her bank account. I calculated my child support based of my gross income. I have never missed a week and i have kept all my receipts. Hopefully i get they can also grant me back-time and get my daughters even more. Late christmas sounds great! i know my daughters will enjoy it, more gifts for them. It's just so hard to see all the time i have missed from them. The last time i saw my 9 month daughter she was learning how to crawl barely! I just recently saw a photo she uploaded and my baby is already standing, that broke my heart. Thanks for following up with me painter! Hope youre doing good!
even after all this mess, my wounded heart is still open for forgiveness and reconciliation . Weird how ive been programmed. Seems like the word masochist describes me pretty good.
I would think that you have a legal right to know where your children are.
And I think you would be a dream client for any lawyer - it sounds like you're doing everything right.
I know you are missing out on your children, but once this is all behind you, you can catch up - and you will have the gift of realizing how precious they are to you. Had this not happened, your W might have continued the abuse you have described and you would have been too afraid to do anything - now you have an opportunity to stop it.
I think you have a baffled heart, and a loyal heart, that does not understand how someone can walk out like that.
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
Hi Angel! Just checking in to send you support. This is a rough time, no question. You're really doing a lot of things right, and I am so happy for you.
staying strong here! I swept through the holidays alone just fine. Better than i thought. I guess all this pain has made me numb , and really theres no more pain ( at times). I still get those random emotional roller coasters which i think is normal. This sunday i was having a nice steak and when i was almost finished with it tears of emotion came out of nowhere. It's weird.Yesterday a female friend of mine invited me for her bday gathering with all her close friends and her husband to a indoor golf facility. First time playing golf here ( i failed miserably) She told me she saw my wife at a store named Michaels on christmas eve, ( they were highschool friends) she told she was alone and just asked her how she was doing. She said my 2nd daughter is starting to take her first steps. She also said my wife looked too skinny , she was already skinny as is , but said it looked unhealthy. Anyway she just wanted to let me know.
I wish i was there for my wife , i just have a strong feeling she is going through something and God i wish i was there to show her comfort. But unfortunately theres nothing i can do right now. Taking it day by day. Today i went to a clothing store to buy me a tailored suit. I am trying to look really nice on court day Jan6. I bought me a fitted suit and the little who helped was all over me haha, she kept saying i looked very attractive and was jealous of my wife, ( if only she knew). That brought confidence to me, something that was always lacking when i was in my old marriage. I am at peace guys , even through this whole mess. I always thank God for that.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
Confidence is important, and so is respect for the court, so congratulations on the new suit! Is your L taking you through what will happen in court beforehand? Be prepared that W may try to play the victim in court and make false accusations against you. Your lack of aggressive action and financial support should make that hard for her, but prepare for the unexpected and focus on staying emotionally calm. It is fine to show sadness, but no anger.
I'm sure I'm not the only one here who will be thinking about you on the 6th...
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
Well another blow to my heart. I just saw that my wife deleted every single picture of me from her facebook. I dont know what was the point of me deleting my facebook if i am still going to search her name on google and look at her facebook. I keep hurting myself. I dont know why. I might as well grab a knife and start cutting my wrist thats basically what i keep doing. I keep telling myself the pain is numb theres nothing she can do thats going to hurt me more , i mean she has kept my daughters away from me for 4months. thats all ! But sure enough this little thing hurts, and it's a low blow to me as silly as it sounds. I love this woman to death.
who am i kidding? only myself. I am only fooling myself when i say that i dont need her, i dont need her to be happy. fake it till i make it? make it where ? to divorce? which is basically where i am going to. I am have board a train that is destined to crash and everyone is panicking but i have to fake that everything is going to be ok? BS! I am done. My life is done. The family i alwys wanted as i kid is done. while im sitting here typing this sentence im crying like hell. This pain is unbearable. can you guys hear me cry?
Why is this woman so cruel? I just want to call her and tell her she is F*** B***. but with my lack of self respect i will probably follow with a question and ask her if she wants to take me back?
